Nowadays, many women are going through a very difficult life situation, when they, often with children, are left alone, and their husbands go to the front. What are they psychologically going through and how to cope with it? When such difficult news comes, women experience fear and horror for the life of their husband first of all, for their own future and the future of their children. Then despair sets in that nothing can be done, nothing depends on them and it will be necessary to accept the situation and reorganize life, taking into account the fact that you will have to be left alone and take care of the children yourself, without the support of your husband. The emotional background of the life of the called wives is full of anger and pain , fear, despair, powerlessness. All this is already beginning to lead to an increase in depression. If a woman does not know how to deal with this, she first begins to show anger outwardly, incl. take it out on children, then can withdraw into themselves and go into deep depression. Unfortunately, such cases are already known and they are not rare. Now, when more responsibility and responsibilities are placed on the shoulders of women, when much more strength is required, these same forces are sorely lacking, because negative emotions take them away in huge quantities. If you are the same woman whose husband is at the front, my recommendations can help you hold on: Try to start organizing your life gradually, do not take on all areas of life at once. For example, re-plan your daily schedule in writing or determine what in your previous life you can give up that took up time that will now be needed for children, if you have them, and for supporting yourself. Seek any help and support from loved ones and relatives. I know that it is difficult for many to turn to friends, but they can also help in such a situation. Work with the emotion of anger, which now can be directed at everything around, including friends who were not called or girlfriends whose husbands stayed at home. Look for support both within yourself and outside. If you are religious, go to church. If possible, be sure to contact a psychologist for individual consultations or look for support groups for the wives of those called up. They are also free. When heavy and sad thoughts come, try to be distracted by something interesting and positive, do not abandon your previous hobbies and interests, they can now be a useful resource. Determine those areas of life and directions that may affect from you and don’t waste your energy on things that don’t depend on you (my article on how to accept the inevitable can help you: Read here) I often recommend a technique - a list of resources. If you don’t already keep one, be sure to create a list that you can add to. Bring in everything that gives you energy, brings you joy and pleasure. In moments of despair, you can read this list and remember something that you have and turn to it. Master relaxation techniques: breathing, meditation, Jacobson body relaxation (can be found on the Internet). This will help you maintain composure and fill you with energy. Don't forget about caring for your body. Pay attention to the signals it gives in time. Go to doctors, do the necessary care procedures. Work with guilt. She can lie in wait for you when you are happy or getting at least minimal pleasure, and at this time your husband is putting his life in danger. It could also be shame for this in front of others, fantasies that they might think something bad about you or judge you. If suicidal thoughts appear, consult a psychologist or psychiatrist as soon as possible. Don’t be left alone with this problem. I would be glad if you share your clients’ experiences or first-hand stories. This will be very valuable 🙏🏼It is often difficult to cope with such a flow of tension alone; in order to live more comfortably during this period, the help of a professional is needed. I will be glad to be this support for you. You can make an appointment with me for a consultation