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Continuing the topic about Contact, I have already written a lot and probably there will be a lot more, it’s just that the topic of Contact is very important, in my opinion, and for me this is the basis. It is the ability to be in contact, and the ability to withstand it, to go through the entire cycle makes a person satisfied with his life. Understand what you want, choose how to achieve it and enjoy it. All this is possible if you know how to be in Contact with yourself, with life, with others. Contact is not only about relationships, but using the example of relationships it is easiest to understand and correct somewhere, which is what a psychologist does. It is in therapy, in building a relationship with a psychologist, that it becomes clear where a person breaks off contact, whether he is capable of it at all, and gradually learns in a safe environment. And then he brings this skill to life and to his relationships. If contact in a relationship is very simple, this is the ability to talk about your feelings in the moment, next to another. For many people this is impossible, intolerable. It's very scary and difficult. It’s scary to talk about yourself, your feelings and desires. It's scary that they will be rejected. It's scary that they won't accept or humiliate or something else will happen. And what happens when we can't speak? Feelings and needs still have to be expressed somehow. And when we don't speak, we do. We try to show it to others with our behavior how do we feel now. This is where all the manipulations, insults, provocations and other behavior begin. This is precisely the attempt to solve the other like a puzzle - if he said/did so, what does it mean? How to react to this? Because the other is not clear to us, the other is just an image and what is going on with him is unknown. But it’s impossible to ask, what if there’s something behind this image that will resolve the whole illusion of relationships? Everyone knows the phrase - don’t ask if you’re afraid that you won’t like the answer. This is about the lack of contact. Yes, and often we are not very clear to ourselves, we don’t know what we want and how it can be done with us. A person cannot understand and therefore satisfy his needs. He is guided by how one should live, how one should live correctly and by orientation towards someone from the outside. Contact is about a meeting, a real one. It's seeing yourself and then meeting someone else. And here it’s scary to get out of fantasy and our ideal ideas. And we continue to unravel the people around us and ask what to do from someone. But everything is decided simply - to know yourself, to hear yourself every moment, to hear others. And follow your desires in reality. It's just not that simple, of course. But it’s really worth it. I invite you to my consultation to learn how to communicate with yourself and with others. You can make an appointment via WhatsApp using your phone number. 89529299329