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In the modern world, a man’s immature behavior is more likely to be the norm, due to the fact that more and more often one can hear women complaining that their husband or boyfriend is a “big child”, who is not responsible for his words and actions. There are an infinite number of aphorisms about men, for example: “The first 40 years of a boy are the hardest” “An adult man differs from a child in the cost of his toys.” Working in a psychotherapeutic center, I have more than once observed such a picture as wives bring their husbands to the appointment almost hand in hand, to the point that they go into the office with him and describe in detail what “bothers us.” It is not uncommon for a parent to call the reception desk to make an appointment for their child to see a doctor, and upon closer examination of the information on how old the child is, since the center only works with adults, it turns out that the child is 25-30 years old. What does it serve? I will tell you in more detail in my article the cause of a man’s infantilism, what its signs are, and what to do if a bearded baby has settled in your house. Psychological infantilism manifests itself in the preservation in the human psyche and behavior of forms that preceded an earlier period of development. This phenomenon can have the following manifestations: passivity, which can be observed in a man’s reluctance to take responsibility for his actions and actions, shifting responsibility onto the shoulders of others. Such a man is not responsible for anything in the family, he has no household or other responsibilities; childish behavior manifested in whims and claims to other family members; such men sincerely believe that a woman’s role is to immediately satisfy their needs. For example, one of my clients’ husbands was offended that his wife didn’t stir sugar in a cup of tea; he went into virtual reality and computer games, endlessly watched football matches and TV series. It is impossible to establish any contact with such a man, since all his time and attention is focused on the computer monitor or TV, and attempts to get him into conversation are met with anger and irritation; - touchiness, desire for constant approval and admiration from a woman. Freud believed that one of the early causes of infantilism may be the individual getting stuck at the oral stage of development, due to early or too late weaning of the baby from the breast. In his opinion, in adulthood such a person develops an oral-passive personality type, which is characterized by the expectation of a “maternal” attitude towards himself from the surrounding world. Men of this personality type, as a rule, have such bad habits as smoking, overeating, and excessive alcohol consumption. According to F. Perls, infantilism is an attribute of such a mechanism of contact breakdown as fusion, which is characterized by blurred boundaries and the absence of a clear differentiation of “I” and another. Infantile behavior is also reinforced by anxious and suspicious parents from the time when an adult does work for the child that the child could do himself. Such parents either believe that no one can cope with the task better than them, or they are afraid that something terrible might happen to the child when performing this or that activity and try in every possible way to make his work easier; such parents are always looking for “where to lay straws” ” to their child, unknowingly disabling him. Thus, the reason for the infantile behavior of an adult is excessive overprotection on the part of the parents and satisfaction of the child’s needs even before he asked for it. Accustomed to such parental care, the child stops making any attempts to independently satisfy his needs and express them. In adulthood, this can manifest itself in the fact that a man cannot take any action and make this or that choice, due to the fact that he himself does not know what he wants. Such a man, as a rule, unconsciously looks for a woman with a pronounced.