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Dedicated to all children. Thank you very much, children, for being with us, with our mothers. With the first child, you begin to realize a lot of interesting things. With the second, you can feel and live all this interesting things very strongly. Thanks For children, parents can relive their childhood in a more resourceful quality. Yes, we are going through the same processes, and the same trauma that we couldn’t cope with last time, from which it was not possible to extract the resource then. There was no such opportunity. Why? I think because there was no support. How does this support manifest itself? When there is a significant adult at all. When this significant adult can and is ready to say, “Everything will be fine,” “It’s a pity that it turned out this way,” “It’s not your fault,” “We’ll handle it.” Most often, this is mom. Even when there is a father, grandmother/grandfather or aunt/uncle, it is the mother who is most important. What to do now, as an adult, if there is still no mother, there is not enough of this supportive experience, there is not enough just the feeling of being a little child? Give back and nurture. With a therapist, with a godmother, with a very good adult female friend. Just be. Be a child. Allow yourself to accept care, accept simple kind strokes and kind words. And, having been nourished, grow up. After all, when do we grow up? When do we grow? When do you manage to open your wings to their full potential? At full strength? It is correct when there are enough resources for growth and when we are in a safe environment. There is a direct analogy with the plant world. A tree grows precisely when there is enough nutrition in the form of sun and moisture, when the space is moderately open, when there is room to grow and something to grow with. So I wish you a nourishing relationship and supportive space for comfortable growth! And then you yourself will become a source and good support for yourself. And for many who still don’t know who “Good Mom” is. What kind of miracle even happens in the world? And in this process both sides receive: the child who receives and the parent who gives. Gives support and receives unconditional love in return. Because the heart is open through which this love shines.